Beartooth singer Caleb Shomo recalls coming out to wife Fleur Shomo
Beartooth vocalist Caleb Shomo remembers how difficult it was for him to come out to Fleur Shomo, his wife of 14 years.
Beartooth singer Caleb Shomo has opened up about the difficult process he went through to tell his wife he was gay.
Shomo, 33, appeared on the podcast Dis Respectly after coming out as gay in a social media post in May. He married his wife Fleur Chomo in 2012.
During the podcast, the singer reflected on feeling like “there was someone else out there who was the real me,” and recalled the moment she realized she had to say something about this feeling.
“I was in the shower and I was trying to say to myself what I’ve had so many times. Thankfully, I kind of punched myself in the face (and said), ‘It’s…time,'” he said. “And I talked to my then-wife about how I felt about men and that I’d never allowed myself to explore that before. But I have to say, I can’t do that. And it was just a path from there.”
Shomo went on to say that she was “scared” to admit these feelings out loud for the first time.
“I was just…rolling my eyes and trying really hard to verbalize things, and I’m really having a hard time verbalizing things,” he said. “I’m a highly verbal processor and this is obviously very intense. I’m so nervous and scared in this situation that it’s really, really hard to verbalize and I couldn’t verbalize it very well. I tried my best.”
Shomo added that during the conversation, she said that “there’s something that I’ve been running away from”, “just like how I feel about girls and how I feel about men”, but “I don’t think I want to run away anymore”.
By doing so, “everything started to make sense, and I was able to stop hating myself so much, at least in a way, and start to unravel everything.”
Shomo came out as gay in an Instagram post on May 23rd. At the time, he shared with fans that he is “proudly gay,” writing that this is “something I’ve been unraveling and considering in my life for quite some time.”
Mr. Shomo was married to his wife, Fleur Shomo, for 14 years. She addressed the news in her own statement on Instagram, saying that it was a “very confusing and hurtful” time for them, but that she “will always love, protect and support Caleb.”
“Our nearly 14 years of marriage have been wonderful and filled with lots of fun, adventure, and love,” she wrote. “No one knows as much about our marriage as we do, and no one can truly know how deep the love exists between us. I already miss my marriage and my husband more than anything. Our story was a good one, and now it’s over.”
On the podcast, Shomo said he received “mixed” reactions after coming out. “Some people came here for that, and some people didn’t,” he said.
Shomo founded Beartooth in 2012. The rock band has released five studio albums, with a new album, “Pure Ecstasy,” scheduled for release in August.
